Stories of Other Loss
My Mother's Death
by Kristi Kille, Toledo, U.S.A.
It was early in the morning on January 31st., 1991. It was around 2 a.m. to be exact. For some reason I couldn't sleep well that night. That's why I was up at that time. My mother was up, as she was just getting ready for bed. I think she might have been scolding me for being up. So, finally I was able to go to sleep. Around 7:30 a.m. that same day, I was leaving for one of my classes at the college I was attending at the time. At that time, my family and I lived in our old house, on a semi-busy street. We had 2 cars parked in the driveway and they were both facing the street. The one closest to the street was the car that I originally drove. However, like a loving mother as she was, my mother did not want me to drive that car because it was having car problems. So, I ended up driving the other car. I was 21 years old at the time. My brothers were 19 and 9 years old. My 9 year old brother was getting ready for school. My dad was working at the time. In order to let me out of the driveway, my mother drove straight across the street, into the neighbor's driveway, across the street from us. After she did that, all I did was pull forward and then just take off. Well, I am extremely grateful to God that I didn't see or hear any of this. As my mother was backing out of the driveway across the street (she was going to back into our driveway again) she was hit on the driver's side by another car, which she did not see and probably because there were parked cars along the one side of the street. Later on, I was called out of school. When I arrived at the hospital, I wondered what one of my Aunt's was doing there and also what one of my Uncle's was doing there. Then I found out about my mother's accident and that she was dead. She was my best friend at the time. She was the one at fault. The car looked like an accordian!!! It took several years to readjust. Not only that, but immediately afterward, my dad started seeing other women. I ended up getting really sick for six months!!! Things did get better. Sometimes I still miss her, though. And this is still a bit hard to talk about. As I was healing from this, I preferred to do the healing and the adjusting at my own pace and my own time, in order for me to heal up. Recently I have created an msn group for those who are grieving the loss of a loved one or friend. http://groups.msn.com/CatholicBereavementSupportGroup/ God bless!!!
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