Stories of Other Loss
Our Beloved Taylor
by Patricia, Toronto, Canada
In response to "Jess" by Sharon, New York U.S.A. I also am an Aunt grieving a loss of a relative. Taylor was my nephew by marriage. He was suddenly taken from us on February 17, 2001 in a tragic car accident. He was 19 and loved by many. My grief is one not compared to the grief of his parents. However being a parent of 3 wonderful children myself, I can't help but feel their pain on a simaler level. I have tried to console them and offer words of comfort, but the only thing I know about tragedies of this nature is that old adedge "time will heal all". It is not meant to lessen their immediate pain, or to push their pain into the future. It is only meant to offer comfort in knowing that in time, they will be able to connect with his memory and remember the good times. My first reaction to his death was the unfairness and waste of it all. Many people have said that God has a plan for us all and we are not meant to understand why things like this happen. I was reading through all of the other stories here and one thing really stood out for me. A gentleman wrote that someone at the funeral of his son said to him "I am so sorry for your loss, it is a tragedy. But you are still here, and that is a blessing." I guess what I am trying to say is that we must focus on the lives of our loved ones that are still with us, remembering and cherishing the lives of our loved ones that are no longer. It will take a very long time for us to get over the sudden loss of Taylor, but my suggestion to my sister-in-law and brother-in-law (and their other children) is to seek help from others who have managed to lived through a simaler loss. Here in Ontario there is a Support Group called "Bereaved Families of Ontario". It can be found on the internet, and I think that going to these sessions, with others who have experienced such tragedy, will be a comfort and a help in "surviving". A message to Taylor: Taylor - You are and always will be in our hearts. We miss you even though we believe that you are back home with God. Please watch over your parents, your sister and your brothers from heaven and help them to understand that it is ok for them to go on. Your Loving Aunt - Patricia
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