Stories of Lost Children
For Crystal in Seymour TN
by Rae Desmond, Louisville, KY, U.S.A.
It will soon be 3 years since Lily died, the same amount of time she was with me. When getting ready for my older daughter to go back to school this fall, it didn't occur to me that Lily would have started kindergarten this year. I was talking with a friend of mine when she innocently remarked about getting school supplies for her daughter, my Lily's best friend. I thought I would fall apart, I forgot her next big milestone. No really tells me to get over it or to go on anymore. When the first anniversary of her death was impending, I had some very well intentioned friends that could not have made the it worse with what they chose to have me spend the day doing with them or the fact they refused to allow me talk about her because it was supposed to be a "happy day". Needless to say we are no longer friends. That is also when my husband decided he really did not want to deal the situation any longer and left me and our other two children. I really found out who were my true friends and who were not. The people I surround myself with now openly talk about my daughter and never tell me to get over it. I am finally able to talk about her and put a smile on my face sometime, instead of rolling tears, I miss her tremendously but I would never take away any of the pain from loosing her so soon for not having known her. She is the greatest gift God ever gave me. Anyone that would ever tell me to get over her is a person I would not want to be around.
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