Stories of Lost Children
Emily Kathryn Jamie
by J.B., Placentia, CA, U.S.A.
Emily Kathryn (my second daughter) was born on Jan. 22, 2004. She was a beautiful healthy baby girl with beautiful blue eyes. She was my wife's 5th child (our second), as well as her 5th C-section, in which at the same time we had a tubal ligation. She was the most easy going baby I had ever seen or been around. Much different than my first daughter who had colic for the first 9 months. She had a smile that would brighten anyone's day and anyone that ever came in contact with her was immediatly drawn to her and wanted to hold her. She would even sleep through the night. We actually got sleep. It was amazing, too good to be true. Emily immediately fell in love with her older sister. (Ellie, who is 2 1/2 years older than her) Anytime her sister came within sight of her, or touched her, a huge smile would form on her face. I so looked forward to the day when Emily would be old enough (crawling, then walking) to play with her older sister Ellie. Unfortunatly, we will never see that day, nor will we get to see Emily grow up. Emily died suddenly and tragically on June 5th, 2004 at the age of 4 months and 14 days in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. My wife and I had taken Emily with us to Mexico (she was a breastfed baby like all her other babies, and my wife insisted we bring her) with my company for what was suppose to be a long weekend of Rest and Relaxtion for a job well done. We believe the cause of death to be Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, although since we were outside of the United States, there was not a very thorough autopsy performed that can verify SIDS. We were told by the Mexican doctors that Emily aspirated (spit up) and then aspyxiated (choked) to death. We went to sleep in the hotel room's bed with her next to my wife, and my wife woke up hours later to find her motionless, dead. My wife had 8 1/2 years of breastfeeding/co-sleeping experience given that she breastfeed each of her babies for the first 2 years of life. I miss her more than a million words can express, the pain constantly runs through my body. Our dreams have shattered into a million pieces and we are struggling to begin to pick up the pieces. For the rest of my life I will regret the making the decision to take her on vacation to Mexico.
I strongly believe that if we had not taken her, she would still be with us today. What a horrible price to pay for a poor decision.....
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